Kelly Rowland is perhaps one of the most beautiful women in the music industry. Sadly, she doesn’t think so. It’s part of being a black female in the 21st century. Black dark-skinned women are always being pitted against light-skinned women and feel they have to compete, knowing that their skin will never be as light as their counterparts. In a world that has put having dark skin at the bottom of the barrel, it is no wonder that dark skin women feel so insecure about who they are and have skewed visions about being beautiful. Kelly Rowland is no different.
In the past, she has said that Beyonce Knowles’ mother, Tina Knowles sat her down and tried to make her realize how beautiful her dark skin was. Kelly Rowland is trying to embrace her chocolate skin. We live in a world where advertisers want light-skinned and white women. We live in a world that is constantly bombarding us with images of white people and telling us that the closer we are to this image, the more beautiful we are.
Kelly Rowland is learning to love herself. “You know what I had great women in my life to help me overcome that. I remember I went through a period where I didn’t embrace my chocolatiness. I don’t know if that’s a word, but I didn’t embrace my chocolate lifestyle. Just being a chocolate, lovely brown-skinned girl and being proud of that. I remember being out in the sun and I was trying to shield myself from the sun and [Beyonce’s mom Tina Knowles] said, ‘Are you crazy?’ She said ‘You are absolutely gorgeous’ and she just told me how beautiful I was and how rare chocolate is and how gorgeous the skin is, all of this stuff. And I was just like ‘Yeah!’ Like a light went off and so and my mother had me sitting out in the sun a little more, just to be a little more chocolate.”
We live in a world where black people must relearn to embrace their culture and race. They must learn to feel confident about who they are and be proud of their origins. We live in a world where someone as beautiful as Kelly Rowland should not have to feel a lack of self-confidence simply because she wears dark skin.